[Tango-L] Women's power in tango

[Michael]

Shahrukh is looking for list activity. I hope I can write this without being
flamed or misunderstood.

 

Women have power in tango. Either they don't know it or know it and don't
know how to use it. (An alternative description is women finding their
voice.)

 

I don't hear everything women say between each other while they sit but I
know they discuss the quality of the leaders. Women have complained to me
that a leader bent their wrist backwards so they now have carpal tunnel
syndrome or squeezed their hand so hard their knuckles almost exploded like
popcorn.

 

Why do women continue to dance with horrible leaders (based on their
definition?) I remember Karin said she would hurt the man's feelings if she
turned him down. I asked her "What would you say if a man said 'Let's go to
your place after the milonga and do the other tango?' " "I'd say NO!" I
asked, "Why would you say "NO? You'll hurt the man's feelings!" I wish I had
a camera because the look on her face was a (click) Kodak moment.

 

I've seen men hold out their hand and women just jump. 

 

There's a man in New York who has a reputation for dropping partners on the
floor. I was amazed that women still danced with him after he dropped one.

 

Do men have the power of Count Dracula to force women to dance with them? (I
guess that's the ultimate cabeceo.)

 

I remember a woman who was talking to me say she was now going to dance a
horrible tanda with a lousy leader. Why?

 

Some women found their voice (and power) and don't have a problem turning
men down even though it shocks some of them.

 

My teacher said everybody has to answer the question "Is BAD tango better
than NO tango." Why is BAD tango better than NO tango?

 

(Taking a chance pressing the "SEND" button.

 

 

Michael

Came home to New York where the Argentine Tango is better