[Tango-L] Men's strategies (3)

[sherpal1@aol.com]

Trini, absolutly, Steve was not a contradiction but a wonderful 
exposition of his experiences, which to me, are quite valid...the 
problem is the lack of affirmation of other non-argentine tangueros 
towards us,  non argentine tangueras, who have similarly valuable and 
valid experiences.  My father used to tell me that when he wanted to 
learn about girls/women, he talked to other females....not to other 
men...to learn the ropes, the ways into a woman's heart...seems like 
good advice to me.  It is so odd to me that our non argentine men take 
more cues from other men than women....just whom are they trying to 
please????  Is dancing for them pleasure or competition?  Sherrie

I would still like to know how men operate if say, they are from 
Pittsburgh and then go to a workshop/milonga in San Francisco, what 
strategies do they use to get unacquainted females  to dance with 
them....


-----Original Message-----
From: Trini y Sean (PATangoS) <patangos at yahoo.com>
To: Tango-L <Tango-L at mit.edu>
Sent: Sat, Jun 18, 2011 3:31 pm
Subject: Re: [Tango-L] Men's strategies (3)


Hi Sherrie,

I don't think it was Steve that was contradicting you.  I believe he 
only shared
his personal experiences.  I am also surprised that yours and Nancy's
experiences are being pooh-poohed, as if with the hundreds of male 
dancers in
BsAs have only one way of asking a woman to dance and one moment in 
time to ask.

It doesn't take much to catch someone's eye.  At a local milonga, it's 
pretty
easy to note who comes and goes even while dancing.  A little something 
that
registers in the head, not like filling out a spreadsheet of data.  I 
don't
think that type of communication you and Nancy talk about has reached 
the States
because guys are too busy trying out their new steps and looking at 
their
partner (instead of the floor and creates all types of navigational 
hazards). 
If a man dances simply and musically, I think what you and Nancy 
describe is
quite reasonable.

Thanks for sharing your experiences.  And thanks to Nancy, too.  It 
adds a
useful dimension to the tango culture in BsAs.


Trini de Pittsburgh



--- On Sat, 6/18/11, sherpal1 at aol.com <sherpal1 at aol.com> wrote:
Steve. it is so incredible how you guys give all this outpouring of
support and appreciation for what other men tell you, but pretty much
attack, deny and ignore what women tell you.  It seems to me that Nancy
and I (although I do not know her) are pretty experienced in the realm
of dancing in BA with some very  good milongueros, and yet you all
hardly give a nod to our experiences and information.   It makes it all
seem so one way and wooden. 
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