[Tango-L] Advice from a 3 1/2 yr old.

[Michael]

Mario:
I hope you're joking. How do you know you "wowed" your partner? Leading is NOT the same thing as controlling. A good leader doesn't LET a woman "add stuff." Dancing is a dialogue and the woman should fell free to "add stuff" whenever she wants and the man should give her a chance to finish. I'm not aware women want to be "challenged." My experience is women want to be respected for their skill level. A man doesn't have the "RIGHT to her vulnerability."

Michael
Moving to New York

  ----- Original Message ----- 
  From: Mario 


  Now that I've just had the best tanga of my life. And I pulled it off alone (no reference to masturbating) I really wowed a dancer who was presented to me by a professional.. So,now, I can point to all my previous mistakes and call them genius ! 

  1. spend your first year or two dancing alone, women only complicate things.
  2. dance with women at milongas but ignore their boredom and bad manners you will soon do an end run around such mamadas.
  3. dont be nice while dancing...be nice before and after the dance but women will not respect a man who is 'nice' while dancing.
  4. give them something that they cannot quite handle.. at the end of the third dance when they finally get it..they will feel great about it all.
  5. don't make it easy for them...they want a challenge..and if they are really good, dancing a good dance will not make any impression....so, throw them around a bit when they least expect it.
  6. let them add stuff now and then...especially during the final chord... after all, they do have something to contribute......
  7. However, the ZING of the woman's dance is her complete vulnerability...and that's what you have got to get to believe that you have the right to manage as you wish...good luck!
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