[Tango-L] Just say NO: (the fear of close embrace)

[Michael]

Lois:
The easiest way to deal with the situation is to think of telemarketing 
phone calls. Somehow, my name landed up on an investors list. Companies 
called trying to get me to buy gold, precious metals, oil, gas and I forget 
what else. The moment I say "I'm not an investor and I don't know how you 
got my name", the company immediately terminates the call.

I suggest women practice "That's not what my teacher said." That should end 
the conversation. If the man persists, "when you become my teacher, I'll do 
it your way." It's polite without any emotion. I'm surprised there aren't 
workshops on this topic at festivals. I bet the workshop would fill up in no 
time with a waiting list. Of course, it would be for women only!

Michael
I danced Argentine Tango --with the Argentines

----- Original Message ----- 
From: "Lois Donnay" <donnay at donnay.net>
Sent: Friday, September 17, 2010 1:32 PM
Subject: Re: [Tango-L] the fear of close embrace


This reminds me of the time I (as the milonga organizer) had to tell a man 
to stop teaching on the floor.   He was respectful to me and said "No 
problem - it stops right now"  That was nice. (Other times men have blamed
 me and never returned to the milonga.)
>
 Then he went right over to my boyfriend and said "Who was that b____ who 
complained about me giving her some tips? Because I'm never going to dance 
with that b___ again!"

 The point is - women would love to stand up for themselves and tell men to 
stop acting like such cads.  How should they do that without having bad 
manners themselves??

 Loisa Donnay