[Tango-L] Cabaceo & the "no"

[Patricia Katz]

The question is: how does a follower convey to a leader that the "no"
doesn't mean forever, but means that when this particular leader improves
then she will accept his invitation, whether by cabaceo or a direct verbal
invitation? 
A cabaceo doesn't address this problem. The "no" doesn't necessarily mean
forever; the woman can give all sorts of excuses for not dancing with a
particular leader, but how does she actually tell him that he needs to
improve before she will dance with him? For many leaders the "no" means that
she doesn't want to dance with him and he really isn't sure of the reason
why, even though she gives some excuses. Most leaders don't feel that the
"no" is because they are not at the level of this leader; this particular
leader may think that she doesn't like him or that she's a "snob" or not
part of her particular "clique". Most followers here as I indicated in my
previous post, will accept an invitation from leaders who may be far below
her level.
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