[Tango-L] social ethical behavior

[Michael]

Martin:
The reason cabeceo doesn't work well in New York (and other places) is 
milongas are close to pitch black and women aren't trained to use cabeceo. 
Even if cabeceo isn't used, it would still be wonderful for the milonga to 
be illuminated so you could see who is there! Somebody commented at a recent 
tango festival that women wore great evening gowns, which nobody could see 
because the lighting was minimal. I've been told the reason for minimal 
lighting is ambience. When you have a great partner, you create your own 
ambience.

I didn't go to all 1600 milongas when I visited Buenos Aires in April 2009 
but at the ones I attended, the lights were up and cabeceo was used. It 
wasn't as bright as the sun but at least you could see.

You're losing out on a lot of dances because you're using cabeceo when 
nobody else is following the code. I'm not sure there are codes at milongas 
in North America.

Michael Ditkoff
I danced Argentine Tango --with the Argentines

----- Original Message ----- 
From: "Nussbaum, Martin" <mnussbau at law.nyc.gov>
Sent: Tuesday, August 31, 2010 12:45 PM
Subject: [Tango-L] social ethical behavior


>
> Ah Niki, come to nyc, where the gender imbalance is in your favor!
> Entonces, most leaders here are very aggressive in trying to get tandas. 
> Not only will they use verbal invites, but some, pretending to be gallant 
> but really coming off as boorish,  will even interrupt your conversations, 
> extending their hand between a man and the woman he is speaking with to 
> get her onto the dance floor.   I agree with Sergio re
> the value of the codigos and I refuse to give up the cabeceo, even if it 
> means I get less dances in NYC.
> -Martin Nussbaum
>