[Tango-L] Ghandi and the cabaceo

[Myk Dowling]

Tom Stermitz wrote:
> Valerie,
>
> What you say may be true for you and your community, but there are  
> other places in the US where it works fine. Therefore, you can't  
> generalize across North America. You also can't claim it is a cultural  
> issue (ever been to a singles bar?) And, culturally, in North America  
> it is normal and common for people to nod to say hello.
>   

Tom and Megan are missing the point of the complaint. Unless cabaceo
usage is used virtually exclusively, women cannot use it to politely
_avoid_ dancing with people. This is because men will simply assume the
lady does not get cabaceo, and walk up to ask. A proportion of people
using cabaceo is not sufficient for this feature to work. _Everyone_
needs to be using it, and not using it needs to be commonly accepted as
being rude or unthinkable.


Myk,
in Canberra