[Tango-L] Invitation and refusal

[johnofbristol@tiscali.co.uk]

> But that was not what I was talking about.  There were people here 
saying that if a woman says no (for any reason, in any way), then  they 
blacklist her.

It's not a question of blacklisting, but of taking no for an answer. 
If a woman didn't want to dance with me 10 minutes ago, or last week, 
or in November 1962, I assume she doesn't want to dance with me now. If 
she has changed her mind, she can ask me - and I *never* turn any woman 
down.

As for the other topic, of whether to ask someone else after having 
been turned down: I never do. After all, I am saying: "My first choice 
didn't want me, so I suppose I will have to make do with you." Instead 
I would make for the bar as if that was where I was intending to go 
anyway. The only time I break this rule is when I am in a place where 
the dancing is on two floors, such as the old Cafe de Paris in London 
or the Galax in Turku. Then I would go to the other floor, where my 
rejection was not seen.

John Ward
Bristol, UK




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