[Tango-L] Is it Balls, or just a Heel?

[Donald Sinclair]

On Fri, Jun 5, 2009 at 1:44 PM, robin tara <robinctara at gmail.com> wrote:
> Dear Jack,

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> How can a woman decline a dance and make sure the man understands that it is
> not him, it is the particular circumstance?

Why can't you talk to the man you want to dance with?

It sounds as if you are placing too many restrictions on yourself -
 were you dancing somewhere with strict tango police?

If either leader had adhered to strict milonga etiquette,
 he would not have managed to catch your eye for the cabeceo -
 in which case no refusal could have happened.
Since this didn't happen, it is unreasonable for anyone to insist
 that you stick to strict milonga etiquette.

Regards,

Donald