[Tango-L] Cabeceo [was "Shocked"]

[Jack Dylan]

This might come as a surprise to many but not everyone in enamored 
with the cabeceo. My partner danced Ballroom for many years, where 
the tradition is that the man comes to her table and politely asks her 
for the pleasure of the next dance. And, if he has a little charming chat, 
then so much the better. For her, a wink and a nod just isn't what a 
gentleman does if he wants to dance with a lady. And let's not forget 
why the cabeceo was invented - to protect the male Argentines' fragile 
ego. 

And, as for the lady searching out a man's eyes in the hope that he 
will invite her to dance, well, to my partner, that's just not how a lady 
behaves. 

Tonight, I'm going to El Beso, where I'll again be confronted by a 
full-wall-length of ladies with fixed smiles, desperatley hoping that 
someone, anyone will ask them to dance. It's just a little sad ...

Jack

 
> From: Tango Mail <tango at springssauna.com>
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> 
> I wish more people would abandon asking to dance verbally; ....  
> Cabeceo needs to practiced more and enforced, too.
>