[Tango-L] Cabeceo [was "Shocked"]

[Ilene Marder]

cabeceo was also designed to help the ladies as well as the men.
I hate having to turn down dancers I don't want to dance with when they 
come to my table to ask me to dance, because no, I don't dance with 
everyone that asks.
as for the practices in ballroom...COMPLETELY different set of 
circumstances!
I.

Jack Dylan wrote:

>This might come as a surprise to many but not everyone in enamored 
>with the cabeceo. My partner danced Ballroom for many years, where 
>the tradition is that the man comes to her table and politely asks her 
>for the pleasure of the next dance. And, if he has a little charming chat, 
>then so much the better. For her, a wink and a nod just isn't what a 
>gentleman does if he wants to dance with a lady. And let's not forget 
>why the cabeceo was invented - to protect the male Argentines' fragile 
>ego. 
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>And, as for the lady searching out a man's eyes in the hope that he 
>will invite her to dance, well, to my partner, that's just not how a lady 
>behaves. 
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>Tonight, I'm going to El Beso, where I'll again be confronted by a 
>full-wall-length of ladies with fixed smiles, desperatley hoping that 
>someone, anyone will ask them to dance. It's just a little sad ...
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>Jack
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>>I wish more people would abandon asking to dance verbally; ....  
>>Cabeceo needs to practiced more and enforced, too.
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