[Tango-L] Social rejection

[Nina Pesochinsky]

Hello, everyone,

I received a few private replies arguing that "rejection in tango is 
OK, just like anything else in life".  To set things straight - just 
because it exists, it does not make it acceptable or OK.

Naomi Eisenberger, PhD, has done a lot of research in the area of 
social rejection.  She used electroencephalogram (QEEG) scans to map 
the brain's response to rejection.  Her research has shown that 
social rejection lights up the same parts of the brain as physical 
pain.  He original work was her dissertation in 1996 and she has 
published extensively since then on this topic.  If you have access 
to an academic online library, you should be able to access her 
publications fairly easily.  Very elegant research.

There is a reason why I am hooking into this subject for 
tango.  There are ways to handle things without provoking the 
feelings of social rejection in people.  There are also remedies to 
make things better should painful social interaction occur.

We can't control what might trigger someone else, but we can avoid 
inflicting pain on others if we are aware of what, generally, might 
do that.  Awareness is important.

Best,

Nina