[Tango-L] Lead an invitation that can be ignored or faught

[Trini y Sean (PATangoS)]

--- On Wed, 9/24/08, Jack Dylan wrote:

"Wow, some of you guys are tough. It seems that Sean will not only not  dance with women who are not good dancers but with women who agree to dance with men who are not good dancers."

Hi Jack,

I don't mean to be tough, punative, or to prevent other guys from getting dances. I'm just looking for my best chance to "catch the ghost". In a 4 hour milonga, I might dance only 6 to 8 tandas. (More if the DJ is really great.) So I use various strategies to try and choose the women who will both enjoy dancing with me and who I will enjoy dancing with. First obviously is watching how well the women dance (and wherther she back-leads :D ). But I also watch who their partners are, how those partners dance, and how they react to her.

--- On Wed, 9/24/08, Jack Dylan also wrote:

"It also raises the question of how you choose your dance partners. Is the ONLY criteria, as Sean implies, that they are 'good dancers'."

I did not mean to imply that; that they are 'good dancers' is necessary but not sufficient. Any of the other things you mention could also apply if you are able to choose between several 'good dancers'. ;-)

In my opinion, the phrase 'good dancers' is so subjective, and so emotionally loaded that it is useless in a forum like this. I would prefer a term like "compatible dancers". I don't usually seek out the best dancers in the room. If a woman is not thrilled to be dancing with me, I'm not going to enjoy the dance either. So I look for the women that I think I can thrill, and who will also be able to thrill me.

Sean

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