[Tango-L] Lead an invitation that can be ignored or faught

[Ilene Marder]

p.s. in tango, you have to earn the right to be on the floor and to 
dance with good dancers. It's just the way it is.


Jack Dylan wrote:

>Wow, some of you guys are tough. It seems that Sean will not only not 
>dance with women who are not good dancers but with women who agree 
>to dance with men who are not good dancers. It makes me feel a little sorry 
>for the nice ladies who agree to dance with me :-). Does it mean they will 
>miss out on dancing with the very best dancers? 
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>It also raises the question of how you choose your dance partners. Is the 
>ONLY criteria, as Sean implies, that they are 'good dancers'. That certainly 
>isn't the case with me or, I think, with most of the people I know. My only 
>criteria is that I like the lady or, if I don't know her, then I think I will like her. 
>If I don't think she's a nice person or I dislike her for any other reason, I will 
>never dance with her and I don't care how well she dances. But, if I like her, 
>I'll always dance with her. And, if she's not very good, then I hope I can help 
>her to improve. If I see a lady struggling to dance with a man who isn't very 
>good it probably means she's a nice lady and, in my case, would make it 
>more likely that I would dance with her.
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>I am just so grateful to all the women who agreed to dance with me when 
>I was absolutely awful. And I would feel very sorry if, because of that, they 
>missed out on dancing with men who are good dancers but think the same 
>way as Sean.
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>Jack
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>>From: Trini y Sean (PATangoS) patangos at yahoo.com
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>>  So if I see a woman dancing with that sort of a man, I am 
>>not likely to invite her to dance. The odds of her being a "good" dancer are 
>>just too low. 
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>>Sean
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