[Tango-L] Lead an invitation that can be ignored or faught

[Jack Dylan]

Wow, some of you guys are tough. It seems that Sean will not only not 
dance with women who are not good dancers but with women who agree 
to dance with men who are not good dancers. It makes me feel a little sorry 
for the nice ladies who agree to dance with me :-). Does it mean they will 
miss out on dancing with the very best dancers? 

It also raises the question of how you choose your dance partners. Is the 
ONLY criteria, as Sean implies, that they are 'good dancers'. That certainly 
isn't the case with me or, I think, with most of the people I know. My only 
criteria is that I like the lady or, if I don't know her, then I think I will like her. 
If I don't think she's a nice person or I dislike her for any other reason, I will 
never dance with her and I don't care how well she dances. But, if I like her, 
I'll always dance with her. And, if she's not very good, then I hope I can help 
her to improve. If I see a lady struggling to dance with a man who isn't very 
good it probably means she's a nice lady and, in my case, would make it 
more likely that I would dance with her.

I am just so grateful to all the women who agreed to dance with me when 
I was absolutely awful. And I would feel very sorry if, because of that, they 
missed out on dancing with men who are good dancers but think the same 
way as Sean.

Jack




----- Original Message ----
> From: Trini y Sean (PATangoS) patangos at yahoo.com
 
>  So if I see a woman dancing with that sort of a man, I am 
> not likely to invite her to dance. The odds of her being a "good" dancer are 
> just too low. 
> 
> 
> Sean
>