[Tango-L] Labor Day Festival: a complaint

[Nina Pesochinsky]

Hello, everyone,

Gender imbalance and other explanations do not justify bad behavior.

What Nancy had described *is* bad behavior.  It shows poor boundaries,  
impulsivity and agression - all in service of getting what people  
want. This is the "stuff" that people carry with themselves in their  
lives.  This is how they have learned to get what they want.

To avoid having people's "stuff" spill out in the milongas, there are  
rules of conduct.  Argentines, just like everyone else, have their  
"stuff".  However, when they show up at the milongas, the rules  
provide the boundaries and guidelines for those individuals for whom  
their own boundaries are lacking.

The codes of the milongas protect everyone from some people's bad  
behavior.  The traditional codes are beautiful because they help  
people behave better than they might on their own.

Best,

Nina

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