[Tango-L] metin video

[Megan Pingree]

> Mario wrote:  Why do women put up with this..are they all  
> masochists ??
> ...and then she smiles and laughs incredulously?? duh
>

First, I want to say that I do not know the student in this video, so  
I do not know what she is thinking or feeling. I simply see her  
behavior and, then of course, interpret it it thru the lens of my own  
experience.  I too have often assisted visiting teachers (Metin  
included), sometimes for the entire series of workshops, sometimes  
for just some demo at the end of a class.  It might be helpful if the  
actual student in this video responded to the List.  But we are  
getting plenty of good discussion just by projecting our own stuff  
onto her :-)

Let us not forget the student: teacher relationship here. I am going  
to suggest below some of the dynamics that may (or may not) be at work.

* Even if the teacher is not being respectful of the student's wish  
to do well and look good in front of the class (and cameras), she is  
often respectful of the teacher's wish for the same.  He is a guest  
in her city. She does not wish to discomfort or inconvenience him by  
walking off or challenging his lead or teaching technique.

  *He is a "hotshot"; she knows or believes it's probably her "fault"  
anyway.

* She tries to make the best of it to cover her own discomfort; she's  
trying to be a good sport.

* She feels honored that he chose her, and fearful that she won't be  
able to get it.

  * Hmmmmm,  What else? She just spent a bunch of time and money  
trying to improve her tango, and is therefore invested in putting as  
good a spin on it as she can.


On Jan 27, 2008, at 6:29 AM, Trini y Sean (PATangoS) wrote:
>
> To me, it would have been worse if Metin simply "gave up"
> on her.

I agree. I have seen this done by a particular hotshot more than  
once.  The students told me that they felt deeply humiliated,  
mortified, and angry.
(Hoping that the text wrap thing works right), Megan