[Tango-L] Dance for success?

[Janis Kenyon]

Tom Stermitz wrote:

Yes, the important thing for the guys is that they feel successful.
Like they have achieved mastery of something, and have the knowledge
and confidence to lead a beautiful woman into a dance.

In tango nothing happens without the guy coming up with an idea and
then executing. This is the crux of the "performance anxiety" problem.
And in tango you are expecting him to succeed or fail in front of a
woman, which loads it even more.

You want to retain men? Leave them at the end of each class confident,
with the new ideas well-integrated with things they already know. For
a beginner, that might just be walking.

The business strategy of "teach something difficult so they will take
privates", doesn't succeed with men. They'll just quit. Maybe they are
cheap; But really they feel unsuccessful and frustrated.>>>>>>>>



Success?  Mastery? Knowledge? Confidence?

What about being inspired by the music and dancing that feeling?
Milongueros dance because the music inspires them, not because they are
successful.

The problem for so many men is that they are thinking rather than feeling.
No wonder men experience performance anxiety.  Their memory fails them after
all those classes of step patterns that are useless on crowded floor.

Men will dance well when they can embrace a woman and be present in the
moment.


Janis
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