[Tango-L] Dance for success?

[Nina Pesochinsky]

The first thing that most Argentine men ask the woman after the first  
dance is if she feels comfortable.  In 12 years, I only heard that  
from one non-Argentine man.

Perhaps, there is a different definition of what success is and it may  
vary from culture to culture.

Best regards to everyone,

Nina






Quoting Janis Kenyon <Jantango at feedback.net.ar>:

> Tom Stermitz wrote:
>
> Yes, the important thing for the guys is that they feel successful.
> Like they have achieved mastery of something, and have the knowledge
> and confidence to lead a beautiful woman into a dance.
>
> In tango nothing happens without the guy coming up with an idea and
> then executing. This is the crux of the "performance anxiety" problem.
> And in tango you are expecting him to succeed or fail in front of a
> woman, which loads it even more.
>
> You want to retain men? Leave them at the end of each class confident,
> with the new ideas well-integrated with things they already know. For
> a beginner, that might just be walking.
>
> The business strategy of "teach something difficult so they will take
> privates", doesn't succeed with men. They'll just quit. Maybe they are
> cheap; But really they feel unsuccessful and frustrated.>>>>>>>>
>
>
>
> Success?  Mastery? Knowledge? Confidence?
>
> What about being inspired by the music and dancing that feeling?
> Milongueros dance because the music inspires them, not because they are
> successful.
>
> The problem for so many men is that they are thinking rather than feeling.
> No wonder men experience performance anxiety.  Their memory fails them after
> all those classes of step patterns that are useless on crowded floor.
>
> Men will dance well when they can embrace a woman and be present in the
> moment.
>
>
> Janis
> www.ToTango.net/milongueros.html
>
>
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