[Tango-L] dressing well?

[Nina Pesochinsky]

Joe,

Yes, indeed, one might need a cold shower or two after that.  I would 
love to see that, instead of the amoeba tango so prevalent everywhere now.

Dressing well in tango is not about the clothes.  It is about respect 
- of yourself and others.  The author of the article made it very 
clear that, in his opinion, in bad nuevo, bad clothes communicate no respect.

It is about self-care.  It is also about the stimulus value - knowing 
what effect you have on others and being able to control that.

Personally, I respect a man that can dress himself well (and does not 
need a woman to pick out his ties).  Maybe the bad clothes 
communicate "Save me!" or "I am looking for a home".  Or maybe they 
just communiate that a person does not know himself/herself well and 
how he/she presents himself/herself to the world.  Or maybe they say 
- "Stay away!" or "look at me!", or "I am a rebel!".  Or maybe the 
bad clothes clearly state a "nuevo" gang affilliation.  Do they have 
their colors? :)

Dancing well is not a phenomena isolated from other things about a 
person.  A person cannot dance well and remain a slob in his/her 
life.  Tango does not forgive lying.  If one tries to lie in this 
dance, he/she willl pay with self-esteem.

Personally, if a man has charm, I don't care what he wears, as long 
as he smells good.  But charm is rare and very expensive in a 
non-material way.   It requires a purposeful cultivation of an innate 
talent.  And a very controlled ego.

If a man has charm, he can be a bad dancer and I will not even notice 
it.   But if a man has no charm, then I will hold him to the highest 
standard of dancing.

Best,

Nina




At 01:50 PM 4/17/2008, Joe Grohens wrote:

>Well, let's watch a traditional couple who really knows how to dance
>tango, and who are dressed properly. Keep your fire extinguisher
>handy. You may need a cold shower afterward.
>http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=TDKwI0I8xms&feature=related
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