[Tango-L] Nina critique of Milonga invite, cabaceo revisited

[Astrid]

I only want to lead in real life. Tango is the ideal world where I get a 
break from all that... ; )

From: "steve pastor" <tang0man2005 at yahoo.com>
To: <tango-l at mit.edu>
Sent: Saturday, September 22, 2007 2:28 AM
Subject: Re: [Tango-L] Nina critique of Milonga invite, cabaceo revisited


> How about when you don't want to follow, but want to lead?
>  reference my post in the "Who's leading" thread
>
>
>
> Nina Pesochinsky <nina at earthnet.net> wrote:
>  Astrid,
>
> And when do you want to dance, but "not as a woman" (since this is
> what the discussion is about)?
>
> Nina
>
>
>
> At 04:14 AM 9/21/2007, Astrid wrote:
>
>>Frankly, I fail to understand where the problem is. In my experience, most
>>invitations to dance are extended silently anyway, whether it be cabeceo,
>>approaching my table with a smile and a nod when I notice him coming, an
>>outstretched hand or whatever. I will accept
>>-if I know the man from tango and like him
>>-if I know him as a reasonably good dancer
>>-if he is attractive
>>-if he looks like a talented beginner
>>
>>I will not accept
>>-if I know the man and dislike him
>>-if I have danced with him before or watched him with other women and know
>> -that he is a bad dancer
>>-that his hold is uncomfortable
>>-that he has no sense of rhythm and they are playing a milonga or some 
>>other
>>really enchating music
>>-that he is on the prowl rather than there to dance and everyone has been
>>turning him down
>>-or if he is dressed/groomed in a way showing disrespect to the tango
>>
>>In all these cases, it does not really make any difference WHAT the man 
>>says
>>to me.
>>Girls, watch the guys dance before you accept an invitation. Who wants to
>>buy a cat in the sack and then end up with an unpleasant, unnecessary
>>experience, and have to patiently hang in there for at least 3 minutes
>>unless you want to make a spectacle of yourself?
>>When a man walks up to my table, I have usually seen him already. And 
>>Nina,
>>I agree that women may love with their ears, but in a milonga it is the 
>>eyes
>>and the body- unless they fall in love with the music.
>>Facit: an invitation to dance (and it's acceptance) is not an act of
>>cerebral cleverness and glib or romantic seduction. It is usually the 
>>result
>>of a chain of preceding events. .
>>
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