[Tango-L] Flaming women at classes

[Trini y Sean (PATangoS)]

Based on my conversations over many years with people who
left tango, decided not to continue, etc., Christopher's
comments are accurate.  It was certainly a problem here,
partly because of the impression that tango was hard or was
for "thinking people".  As one of our most committed
students once told me ("I had heard about tango earlier,
but for some reason I thought it was elitist.  I can't
point to specific thing, though, that gave me that
impression.")

Aside from that, comments of the non-committed were mostly
about their own scheduling issues or finances.  Or in the
case of Pittsburghers, they move to other cities.  Sigh.

Otherwise, I hadn't heard many comments about tango being
too difficult to learn or that it was unimpressive.

Trini de Pittsburgh



--- ceverett at ceverett.com wrote:

> On Sun, 22 Jul 2007 04:12:55 -0400, "Jake Spatz
> (TangoDC.com)"
> <spatz at tangoDC.com> said:
> > 
> > We self-important tango assholes like to believe that
> so many people 
> > don't come back for a second lesson, or second month,
> because they're 
> > intimidated, or had a boo-hoo time, or some BS like
> that. And that's 
> > pure condescension on our part. Chances are, they just
> Weren't impressed.
> > 
> 
> A thought:
> 
> We give them multiple reasons to be unimpressed.  many
> reasons 
> have nought to do with the quality of our dance.  I think
> most 
> often they are not impressed with us as people.
> 
> Plenty of people come to a tango practice or class to
> meet new 
> people.  They tend to be rather nice people, IMO. 
> However they 
> want more than just a sense of welcome, but a feeling of
> being 
> around people just like like them.
> 
> In a small community, it doesn't take much to get them to
> decide 
> that they won't be happy, and so off they go.  This in
> fact has 
> little to do with how nice the people in the group
> themselves 
> are.  It's a matter of perception, and how other people
> interpret 
> minor events we don't see as important.
> 
> It's hard to get out of the trap of being a small
> community in
> a smaller city.   There seems to be a barrier at 20
> people they 
> find hard to break through.
> 
> In larger towns, multiple small circles interact; those
> truly 
> motivated to learn the dance can go elsewhere if they
> don't 
> like their current location.
> 
> Christopher
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