[Tango-L] Ladies on web-sites

[Eva Swingo]

Thanks for your answer Astrid,
I always enjoy reading your mails.

Habits matter, habits prevents us from reflecting.
Reflecting is good. Just that.

I know the tango-scene is not more equal then the rest of
the world. I just have to start where I am.

Even if 'ladies first' is *galant* - only.
It had a hidden value which I think could help.
The feeling that it was okey to be a women. 
(I know this is simplified.)

But it is no longer okey to be a woman.
We have to be copies of men, and of course we can't be,
we become bad copies of men, instead of 
having a value in our own right.
I think that is what makes the disrespect growing.
(it's so easy to forget that we can't value e.g. our
jobs more importent then our children, ...)  

Despite all prejudices - for me tango is one of the 
most equal dances I have tried. 
Man and woman are equally importent.
Follow or lead does not matter, both man and woman
has to listen to each other's signals to make
the dance really creative. It's give and take.

Tango has given me more equal value and self-esteem
than anything else in life - I don't want to lose that.
Here I have met truly equal men, who respect women.
I don't want to lose them.

I was just reflecting over how to make something as
complicated as a pair-list in which it would be 
equally easy to find the women (when browsing) as the men.
Probably by spliting it into two, making each couple 
appear twice, one women first, one men first.
I meen - the list will be just longer and longer,
isn't it? with the tango-scene growing...

Eva



--- astrid <astrid at ruby.plala.or.jp> skrev:

> What does it matter, Eva? Why don't you just put the names in alphabetical
> order. Facundo and Kely, but Claudia and Esteban. Ladies first is not going
> to make the tango scene an equal world. In Germany we have ladies first, but
> ladies first is basically a gallant, charming way to make the "ladies"
> (women, actually) feel better about being thought of as the weaker sex.
> Now that we are making our own money, men won't open doors any more for us
> as much as they used to.
> 
> sorry to be of no help
> Astrid



	
	
		
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