[Tango-L] any advice for bad shoulders?

[steve pastor]

WHAT IS DANCE FLOOR ETIQUETTE?
   
  The first goal is to avoid injury - to the follower, to other dancers,
  and to walls and furniture and potted plants.
  It is customary not to teach or talk at all on the dance floor during
  a dance. If you want to talk or teach or discuss a step, it is polite
  to other dancers to leave the floor and go elsewhere. This is the
  accepted rule at milongas. At practicas, as mentioned above, it's OK
  to do these things - talk, work on your steps, discuss technique -
  while on the dance floor. 
  It is appropriate to leave the floor after one song, or even in the middle
  of a song, if you are sufficiently uncomfortable with your partner's
  dancing or other behavior.

  Perhaps I take things too literally, but I note that there is nothing in this list
  that makes it permissible for a man to tell the woman that she is making 
  him uncomfortable while dancing at a milonga.
   
  Although I agree with Carol's advice to tell the woman about it, I know for a 
  fact what the result of that is. My goodness, you've talked to your partner, 
  and you've also probably ruined her evening by criticizing her and being rude.
  (OK I can't help  a bit of exaggeration, but I'm trying to make a point.)
   
  If leaving the floor after one or two dances, and not finishing the tanda is the 
  accepted alternative to simple verbal communication at a milonga, I think we
  need to think about this. We set people up to think that something is wrong
  if you don't finish the tanda, but you aren't supposed to tell them what it is.
   
  Yes, I have tried to change some of these "rules", and what people teach to
  their students. Specifically, I wonder why everyone isn't told that if you bump
  into or kick (not brush) someone you should apologize. Tango Trance or 
  something, I guess.
   
  Meanwhile, I think it's funny that the shoulder article is at a site with "testoserone"
  in the name. Maybe if I had more I would just shut up and "take it like a man".
   
  Does this count as a rant?
   
   

       
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