[Tango-L] tell me why someone can not stand comparison of a dancer to a musical instrument

Sun Dec 23 00:13:27 EST 2007

nd the women keep telling the men not to refer to
them in that way and  they keep justifying their way
of thinking.
 And would the men please
stop telling us how we are supposed to feel about
it!!!!!

I think Nancy said it pretty well - several women have shared their 
feelings, and I guarantee that we could produce many others who would 
agree - it matters less that you think it should not bother us, and 
more that you respect the fact that we've told you that it does (and 
btw, I am using "you" in the global sense, not you personally.  I am 
willing to believe that you do mean it to be received as a positive 
comparison - but, as one on the receiving end, I can assure you that it 
isn't.....for a whole host of reasons that may or may not have anything 
to do with you or you alone, and have much to do with experiences such 
as the women on this thread have already described.

If you say something to me that I tell you leaves me feeling hurt or 
offended - isn't the more respectful, or at least polite thing to do is 
not repeat it - rather than tell me I shouldn't be bothered? Maybe 
something along the lines of, "I really
meant it to be a compliment, but I am sorry that it didn't sound like 
that to you.  I think you dance beautifully...etc."  I don't think this 
kind of sensitivity to someone's feelings is a cultural thing......

Have you joined the Buffalo Argentine Tango Society Yahoo! group yet? 
It's easy, and the best way to make sure you know what we're doing and 
what's going on with the Argentine tango in and around Buffalo......go 
to www.yahoo.com > select Groups > search for Buffalo Argentine Tango 
Society > follow the directions to join BATS_tango.  Thanks!

-----Original Message-----
From: Igor Polk <ipolk at virtuar.com>
To: Tango-L at mit.edu
Sent: Sat, 22 Dec 2007 11:37 pm
Subject: [Tango-L] tell me why someone can not stand comparison of a 
dancer to a musical instrument

Please, tell me why someone can not stand comparison of a dancer to a
musical instrument.

I think, technically and educationally it is a perfect association.

It should be something cultural, which I miss. What is going on?
Please, help me to understand.

Privately if you want.

Please, it is important for me.

Igor Polk

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