[Tango-L] Don't blame your follower

[Astrid]

> I find nothing offensive to play the role of a Stradivarius in the hands 
> of
> a talented musician.
>
> But you, ladies, are free to feel offended and miss the whole point.

Talk like this is cheap if it comes from a man.
The point is that the whole tone of the statement of "playing her like a..." 
whatever instrument tells me through intuition and experience that we are 
not dealing here with a "talented musician" of the class of someone who'd 
own a Stradivarius.
I'd rather be a broom in the hands of El Pulpo (was this him?) in that video 
than to be manhandled by someone with the approach discussed above.
Just like a lover who thinks, he just needs to press those buttons described 
in the manual he read can make a woman feel like a machine who has an 
engineer fiddling around with it, the tangodancer's efforts in getting his 
"instrument" to play what he wants may not be appreciated the way he 
expected.
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Victor:
>> The 'playing her like a violin' comments are generally offensive but have
>> their place.


>> And, to the comment .. "that's great! he is playing her like a fine
>> violin..".
>> I agree - yuck!! is the perfect response.
>>
>> B, if this is your first post, please, let's hear more from you.
>>
>> Keith, HK
>>
>>
>>
>> On Mon Dec 17 4:04 , buffmilonguera at aol.com sent:
>>
once I was
>>>watching a beautiful woman dance with a man who was leading - really
>>>admiring her adornments, musicality, beautiful footwork, and nuance - I
>>>couldn't wait to dance with her - when a guy standing next to me said,
>>>"that's great! he is playing her like a fine violin......." yuck!!
>>>This passionate, beautiful dancer described as an inanimate object that
>>>he "uses," Maybe it is oversensitive to have such a strong reaction to
>>>imagery that other folks use to describe their tango....but part of it
>>>comes from the experience of being told "follows only really need to
>>>learn to follow," having inexperienced (or worse, experienced) leaders
>>>wrestling with you to "get" gancho after gancho after gancho - and
>>>those are usually the same leads who will violently twist your
>>>shoulders over and over to get you do the boleo they demand, and, my
>>>favorite, the leads who will stop dead in the middle of the floor
>>>during a milonga and scold, "you were supposed to do...whatever," to
>>>which the best response, that most follows are too gracious to say, is,
>>>"you were supposed to lead it...."