[Tango-L] The Eyes Have It

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bravo and muy bien, mi amiga!!!
Joanne Pogros, currently in Buenos Aires 
 
-----Original Message-----
From: bichonheels at gmail.com
To: tango-l at mit.edu
Sent: Wed, 4 Apr 2007 3:03 PM
Subject: [Tango-L] The Eyes Have It


Well, it just goes to show you what can be gained if you're ready to
receive. If you're willing to listen.

The last couple of nights that I went out dancing, I was much more focused
on being available and looking. I read a great post from Nina a while back
that admonished us not to go after guys. I listened to that advice. It
helped my self-esteem a lot. Even if I seemed to be sitting more, at least I
wasn't projecting neediness and desperation. Although I was still a little
frustrated, I felt better about myself.

However, I dealt with my boredom by socializing. Recent posts to the list
made me reevaluate that. Again, I was ready to receive. I listened. Well,
the past few nights, I have gone out dancing and my interaction with other
women resembled what Deby just described in her post. I may have exchanged
some pleasantries with women next to me, but I didn't look at them, I looked
at my prospects!

So, I didn't stare my prospects down like a stalker. I just connected with
each one and held my gaze a little longer than I might if I encountered them
on the street. I have to say, it made something inside me feel a little
warmer. It felt pretty forward!
The upshot, though, is that I danced far more over the last few nights than
I have over the prior two weeks. I don't mean that each man just rushed
right over to me when I looked, but some of them did, and some of the others
found me later. Also, I wasn't just looking at everybody. I kept coming
back, gently, to the ones I know and like (and another one I didn't know,
but think I might like).

Maybe I just didn't know how to flirt before. I think this is my new motto:
The eyes have it.

Fan
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