[Tango-L] The thrill is gone... how to get it back?

[Trini y Sean (PATangoS)]

Hi Robert,

Keep in mind that those nasty reactions may not be about
you.  It could be the other person who has a problem.  I
don't understand why anyone needs to be nasty to anyone,
especially if a person is just new to the group. 
Corrections can be done in an educated, non-judgmental way.
 

Probably every community has a sourpuss.  For many years
here, new students would be turned off by the local
sourpuss and left tango.  Those who stayed figured out to
ignore him.

I suggest not trying too hard to fit in or else you might
lose yourself.

Trini de Pittsburgh


--- Robert Armus <rarmus at hotmail.com> wrote:

> Hello everyone : - )
> 
> When I first started going out to Milongas to dance I
> didn't know anyone 
> (because I was new in town) nor all the rules and had a
> GREAT time asking 
> everyone and anyone to dance, even though I couldn't
> execute many figures or 
> have much technique for that matter, I was very
> enthusiastic and did have 
> many "Tango moments". Usually the girl I was dancing with
> enjoyed also, and 
> then, of course, inevitably I started to get some bad
> (sometimes downright 
> nasty) reactions. I was told that "you can't do this" and
> "never do that" 
> etc. So after a period of thinking about packing it in I
> started to take 
> classes with some popular local teachers to try and fit
> in. Now I know the 
> rules (social and dancing) and dance how they expect
> everyone to dance. I no 
> longer get nasty comments but I find that the thrill is
> gone, I feel like 
> I'm in a box and have to be very careful not to break any
> of the rules and 
> rarely have those special moments. Does anyone else
> relate to this? Does the 
> thrill come back?
> 
> Rob


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