[Tango-L] Qualities of female leaders, was Thoughtful men....

[Trini y Sean (PATangoS)]

I am afraid, Marisa, that the answers you receive
would still be comparing apples and oranges, even if
your conditions are met.  The reason is simply because
of the changing relationship of the follower to
his/her partner.

For example, when I follow a woman, I know perfectly
well that she is not interested in the sensual aspect
of the dance with me (at least, not the ones I
follow).  So I dance with her differently than I would
a man.  With a man, I might allow some sensual
pleasure as a byproduct of an intense dance (it never
gets that intense with another woman).  Basically, one
might dance more freely with one gender than with
another.  I suspect it would be the same for male
followers.  So comparisons would be skewed.

What I do think is that women have a different style
when they lead than when they follow.

Quite frankly, though, I do not get what the recent
fuss was about.  Women leading women and men leading
men is already a fact of life at a milonga, except for
in BsAs, (like this is a surprise?).  Denying it or
pooh-poohing isn't going to change that for those who
do not like it.  Oh well.

Trini

P.S.  Tom - nice post.
P.P.S – I have a better sense of what a masculine
tango means after watching and dancing with a young
Argentine milonguero this past weekend.  There’s a
solidity and sureness in his walk.  I am reminded of a
big bear that goes where he pleases and when.  I
couldn't imagine feeling unsafe in his arms.


--- Marisa Holmes <mariholmes at yahoo.com> wrote:

> I often wonder, since I lead, but do not have much
> chance to follow other women, whether there is
> actually anything that distinguishes us as a group
> from male leaders.  I'd like to believe Nancy
> (although perhaps I would not be one of the few
> women
> leaders with whom she would dance more than once ;->
> ).  But I think I see something different when I see
> other women leading.  Are there good followers (of
> either sex) who can comment on general differences
> between male and female leaders?  Or are there only
> individual differences?  

> What do you say?  What is your experience?
> Marisa


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