[Tango-L] Leading and following

[Alexis Cousein]

Sergio wrote:
> If I lead a step and the woman answers with something different
> from what I lead I have to assume that something is wrong.
>

We're in agreement here, though "wrong" is unnecessarily
judgemental ;).

> Either she does not know how to dance or she is trying to "back
> lead" (this is to lead the leader when she is the follower)
> or she is trying to irritate me on purpose : all reasons
> for me not to ask her to dance with me again.

Two points:

1.
you're forgetting one possiblity: that you may not lead well.
Even  though in you case you may feel the probability is zero,
it's not *impossible*, you know.

2.
I don't necessarily *mind* women who back-lead *when they're given
the opportunity*. I do mind when they do so without having the
opportunity, and I can't tolerate sloppy backleading (or inexistent
backleading while the follower acts as if she had been backleading).

Perhaps *you* aren't giving followers *any* opportunity to backlead,
but the world is full of wusses ;) that do, and quite on purpose.

Certainly, I know a few followers (who have been known to backlead me
at the end of phrases) to whom I'd never refuse a dance.


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Alexis Cousein                                al at sgi.com
Solutions Architect/Senior Systems Engineer   SGI
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