[Tango-L] NYC meh

[Sharon Pedersen]

Thank you for this thoughtful reply, Brick.  It's interesting to hear
that men can face the same problems.  Do you think men's difficulties
are restricted to places that ask by cabeceo?  In New York the men
simply walk up and ask, and I didn't see anyone getting turned down.
Of course this may be because men are circumspect in whom they walk up
to, protecting themselves from rejection.

--Sharon

On Monday, March 14, 2011, Brick Robbins <brick at brickrobbins.com> wrote:
> On : Sun, 13 Mar 2011 Sharon Pedersen wrote:
>> I visited New York this weekend.
>> Dancesport Milonga, 1.5 hours, 3 tandas.
>> Mariella Franganillo's Practica, 2.5 hours, 3 tandas.
>> All-Night Milonga, 2 hours, 1 tanda.
>>
>> What is anyone else's experience on visiting large cities?
>
> It is my experience, that when communities gets larger, they segregate
> into small groups of friends. People generally dance within their own
> group.
>
> Additionally: to quote tangocynic from his (or her) hilarious video
> So you want to learn Tango? <http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=JQ2u-xLu-QI>
>
> "Men will only dance with you for 3 reasons:
> either because you are good looking
> or because you are young
> or if you can actually dance"
>
> #1 and #2 are pretty easy for those who qualify, but #3 requires you
> to actually get out on the floor so people can tell if you can dance,
> and that is a problem if you go to the milonga alone. #3 is also a
> problem if you don't measure up to the local standards, which are
> pretty high in NYC (not intended as and insult, as I don't know
> you....It is just a reality check)
>
> Men have similar issues when visiting places with large communities,
> and for me, Buenos Aires was by far the biggest example of this, I
> went alone, and I really didn't start dancing much till after I had
> been there a month or so and I found a group of friends that I could
> dance with , which got me dances outside of my group.
>
> And yes, I don't qualify for #1 or #2 :-)
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