[Tango-L] Getting tango lessons to the needy

[David]

Michael,

I couldn't disagree more about what you said about how to convince a man to
improve.  Is women stopping dancing with you, what made you want to improve?
It sure wasn't what made me want to improve.  Some of it is simply self
motivation, but I think more of it came from people who helped me early on,
in my tango journey.  I was very interested in the feedback from the women
who did dance with me.  

As for people who wouldn't dance with me, why would I care what they think?
I'd rather try to improve for the people who are friendly to me, and/or give
me a chance.  

For most men, I suspect if women won't dance with them, they'll soon find a
new hobby or venue (like the man in Lois' post, who was never seen again).  

My two cents (if it's even worth that).

David

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From: Michael <tangomaniac at cavtel.net>
Subject: [Tango-L] Getting tango lessons to the needy
To: Tango-L <tango-l at mit.edu>


The only thing that will convince a man to improve - - is when women stop
dancing with him. As long as women continue to dance with a poor leader
"because they don't want to hurt his feelings," he has no motivation (nor
clue) to improve.