[Tango-L] Men's strategies

[sherpal1@aol.com]

Nancy.....not all women get treated so elegantly by 
milongueros....sometimes the friendships are so familiar and casual 
that the man does not escort her back to her chair...however, I find 
that  if the man really appreciates and enjoys the tanda he had with 
me, his final and most all-encompassing thank you and sign of respect 
and appreciation is to escort me all the way back to my seat, not just 
to the aisle.  Typically , they hold your hand the whole way back to 
the seat or leave their arm around your waist, it is a very flattering 
way to let you know that your are a Diosa(goddess).  Even what appears 
to be some very rustic men, maybe from the Provincias, extend this 
incredible courtesy, as though the woman has just performed her heart 
out for him and has to be assisted back to her seat to recover...very 
nice... how often do we see this in communities outside of BsAs....not 
so much....sherrie





-----Original Message-----
From: hbboogie1 at aol.com
To: tango-l at mit.edu
Sent: Sat, Jun 18, 2011 12:51 pm
Subject: [Tango-L] Men's strategies



OK.  so you read Rick McGarrey's blog. Good for you. but yes, I do 
sometimes
check out other guys on the dance floor.  More as a method of 
elimination than
as prospecting for next partners.    These milongueros whom I named ( 
and add
Pedro Sanchez to the list and Anibal and Adolfo, too) have never failed 
to make
me feel cherished as a dance partner.  Let me ask you this.  Do you 
always walk
your partner back to the table from which she came?  Or at least to the 
edge of
the floor?  And then do you return to your seat  during the cortina?  I 
am
betting you don't.  I am betting that you are out there scrambling to 
grab a
partner even as she is leaving the floor.  Now, that is disrepectful!  
That
seems to be the habit of American men and I find it  very much like 
slaughter
house treatment of cattle.  "We are done with you, off with your 
heads."




Nancy you’d lose that bet. Yes I walk my partner back to her table and 
then
return to mine. I’m not the guy that dances every tanda I‘m very 
particular
about the music I dance to. I also watch the floor and when I see a 
follower
chewing gum, talking or looking around the room and not giving 100% 
attention
into the man she’s dancing with I avoid her. So Nancy……Your Fired
David



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