[Tango-L] Men's strategies

[NANCY]

> As it happens, it is only milongueros who have arranged for the next
> tanda with me while dancing with another.  They do it by raising their
> eyebrows or winking or moving their index finger in a "next one"
> gesture as they pass by my table.

and

> They certainly do not stop at the table and negotiate a tanda unless
> both the man and his partner are very old friends and he would still
> wait to see what music will be played before he commits to a dance.

          Just a quick question, Nancy--since a milonguero is willing
to commit to the next tanda while still dancing, how can it be said
that he would never commit to a dance without
 hearing what music will
be played first?    This would seem to be a contradiction.

Huck


Several possibilities Huck, and thanks for asking.  1) He might want to dance with me no matter what music is coming up 2)  He might mean ' I will get to you as soon as I hear something agreeable/ I recover from this tanda/ I get a drink of water/ I fulfill other promises to other ladies  / Please don't leave before we dance.3)   or ****most likely:  he knows what music is coming up next because he knows it will be a vals tanda and he knows I adore tango vals.*** I have been known to leave a milonga after only one perfect tanda of vals because anything that might follow could be a let down.