[Tango-L] Male / Female - Defining the different roles.

[Mario]

Hi, No Michael I wasn't inferring all that you seem to have gotten from that 
paragraph. What I'm saying is that in that narrow sense; the woman should not 
ask the man to dance and why.   

    In terms of the 'pulling off' a successful dance yes I agree with you and my 
whole later paragraph was alluding to the woman's role as much as I can see 
it..and asking for input.   BUT my emphases was on the man and his 
self-confidence (which women want) which is what is going to make his dance 
interesting, different, surprising and a fun adventure.....it's his being 
enthused by the music and confident that he's going to take on the BIG job of 
steering a delightful dance with a particular woman...for me, sometimes the 
music is soo compelling that I'll dance with anyone but again thats straying 
from the point that since the responsibility is the man's, he should make the 
decision when and with whom to dance....and yes the women must wait....and 
attract....you know about the birds and the bees? 


 

Mario:
Yes, what you wrote rings a bell, AN ALARM BELL!

"This situation is a big reason why it should be the man who decides when and 
with whom to dance." You don't really mean the woman has NO say with whom and 
when she dances? We just had a long, useful thread on cabeceo. What you wrote 
goes completely against cabeceo in that it removes the woman's choice in dancing 
and reinforces the mentality that the woman just waits for a knight in shining 
armor who wears dance shoes.

"The music and the person with whom he dances ought to give him the conviction 
that he can pull it off (this song) with her help..." Dancing is a partnership. 
The woman doesn't dance to assist the man in "pulling it off." BOTH of them 
"pull it off" or it wasn't a good dance.

Michael
I danced Argentine Tango --with the Argentines

From: "Mario" <sopelote at yahoo.com>
Subject: [Tango-L] Male / Female - Defining the different roles.


One of the differences in roles that most impresses me is how the man is 
responsible for the dance itself. That is; he sets the cadence the movements the 
vital feel of the dance. He is also responsible for what comes next, this in
itself can be a BIG job and an intimidating one. This situation is a big reason 
why it should be the man who decides when and with whom to dance. The music and 
the person with whom he dances ought to give him the conviction that he can pull 
it off (this song) with her help (be a positive and elegant experience).

The woman's part is equally as challenging, although not being as privy to it as 
I am the man's, I cannot but marvel at it when I see it well done. There is a 
combination of both the beauty of surrender and innovation. A truly marvelous
dynamic that is replicated thruout life in many ways, but that is besides the  
point.

If any of this rings a bell with you and you would like to add something, please 
do.