[Tango-L] Fwd: social ethical behavior

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 This type of behavior can happen with foreign people, but never with a Porteño couple.

 


 

 

-----Original Message-----
From: Dubravko Kakarigi <dubravko_2005 at yahoo.com>
To: tango-l at MIT.EDU
Sent: Tue, Aug 31, 2010 3:10 pm
Subject: Re: [Tango-L] social ethical behavior


You may think of this what you wish, but here's an excerpt of my experience from 

















a recent visit to Bs As dancing at a traditional afternoon milonga (3-10pm). 











My partner and I always set together and mostly danced with each other. On three 

















occasions (out of four visits to that milonga), men (each older than 60, I 





estimate) signaled me from a distance to see if it is okay to invite my partner 





to dance; I affirmed, they then connected with my partner with a cabeceo and 





danced. 











On one occasion a young fellow stepped out in front of our table, which was at 





the edge of the floor so he was standing on the floor with no one else on the 





floor, and asked my partner to dance - she declined.











BTW, my partner and I had an agreement that if she wanted to dance with someone 





else, she would let me know (sometimes I suggested a good dancer to her as 





well), and I would facilitate the exchange by giving the gentleman a chance to 





confer with me first.











This all may seem quite anachronistic and chauvinistic but it worked well 





because it followed the unwritten rules of behavior and eliminated 





any embarrassment or discomfort.