[Tango-L] Tango-L/Social-ethical behaviors and protocols

[Ruben Malan]

[Tango-L] Social-ethical behaviors and protocols



Regarding John's statement:

"Ruben Malan disapproves of the pursuit of the opposite sex at milongas 
because teenagers might be present."  John Ward Bristol, UK



Not necessarily true John. Please, read my post again. It is acceptable if 
done with decency, prudence, and respect, observing the spoken and unspoken 
codes. It is also natural and inevitable.



I plainly and respectfully disagree with Trini's assertions:



"Oh, come on.  Chasing the opposite sex is what gave popularity to the tango 
in the first place.  I seriously doubt that the first milongueros were 
thinking about "art" as they were practicing with each other."



Some rationale already presented.



Please consider that there are different kind of milongas. More 
specifically, I was talking about our local regular ones. I comfortably 
endorse the following Sergio's wise comments:



"If some romance develops, even better. But the main purpose of going there 
is to dance, just for the pleasure of dancing.  It is not the favorite place 
to pick up women.  There are many other places and occasions."

"I think that it is fair to say that today, most people go to the milongas 
to dance. There is limited socialization, you arrive, you greet people that 
you know and you sit. "



Frankly, I hope I will find a "soul-mate" for myself at a milonga (I doubt 
it), but I'm not going to them with that purpose in mind. It will negatively 
affect my concentration, my technique, and my performing as a dancer. 
Moreover, intuitive woman (most of them) easily detects when a gentleman is 
needy looking for also a"chase."



Besides, I must be faithful with my own unspoken milongas codes fortunately 
adopted by many in these days. Independently of women's appearances, 
attractiveness, marital status, age, height, size, and skills, I personally 
observe the following rules relevant to this friendly discussion:



1)Dance with good dancers to learn and improve. They often give me a good 
and sincere advise.

2)Dance with those ladies who are new to make them feel well and welcome.

3)Dance with followers who are not often invited, to be fair and encourage 
them to comeback.

4)Dance with ladies that are ignored because they are beginners. Perhaps I 
may have a chance to contribute to their further development.

5)Dance with your friends, and your friend's partners for courtesy at least 
once.



Regarding Anton's statement: "Why the need to sanitize?"



I'm nobody to sanitize or heal anybody or any milonga. I'm busy working in 
my own improvement and practicing tango. I can make a humble contribution 
however, by sharing my views. Usually, we sanitize to prevent contamination 
and sickness. I believe in preventive medicine. In the light of Nicetune's 
unhealthy and disturbing experience, perhaps "purify" rather than 
 "disinfect" will be better actions or only wishful verbs. Even better, what 
about EDUCATE rather than heal?



Ruben Malan