[Tango-L] How do you decide who to dance with?

[larrynla@juno.com]

Tonight I went to one of my favorite milongas, which is at the L.A. 
Argentine Association.  I like go early to get a good parking spot and 
my favorite table.  Not many people come that early so I was idly 
thinking about this and that, that being how I pick the ladies to ask.

I have a routine which gradually evolved; I didn't plan it out.

The first people I think of are friends, then acquaintances who always 
let me know they enjoy dancing with me.  I often don't dance with them, 
though.  Most of them are good dancers, and popular for themselves.  
Only if they seem to be sitting out a lot of dances do I check with 
them to see if they want to dance but, for whatever reason, are not 
being asked a lot that night.

Then I check for ladies who aren't dancing at all or very much, for any 
of several reasons.  I have several motivations for this, selfish and 
otherwise.  One is that I fear being rejected less.  And if they are 
beginners they probably won't be highly critical of me.  I'm pretty 
good after twenty years of tango and thirty years of lots of other 
dancers before that, but I'm not super-terrific.  And I also know what 
it is like to want to dance but not have the chance, so I sort of pay 
back all the women who were kind to me by being kind to these ladies.

Soon I have warmed up not only physically but emotionally and 
artistically, and I'm dancing well.  So I begin asking the more popular 
ladies to dance.

There's more to my routine than that, but that's enough to get a 
discussion started.  So.  How do you decide who to dance with?

Larry de Los Angeles
http://ShapechangerTales.com - story added: "Kassandra's Last Warning"


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