[Tango-L] Refusing a dance... <was Re: Is it Balls, or just a Heel?>

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Jack & Dubravko:
     Relax. Your entitled to politely refuse a  dance from anyone, male or 
female. Jack I feel your pain but don't quite  understand it. Do you think 
women are in pain or pained when they refuse you? Or  are you just one of 
those lucky guys whose never been turned down on a request  for a dance, or for 
that matter a date? God Bless. 
     One should always try to avail oneself to request  for a dance but, 
"Sorry. No Thanks" is OK. I've been dancing for a number  of years and have 
never been to new milonga in a new city where I am a  'stranger in a strange 
place', where a woman has asked me to  dance. And that's OK as well.
     In the end, and dare I raise the question, "Should  a woman ever ask a 
man to dance" at a milonga that is? If they're friends, dance  partners 
etc. that's a different story. I don't think it generally fits in with  the 
style, origins and etiquette of tango. My personal opinion.....well let's  hear 
it from you all first.
Dan    
 
In a message dated 6/5/2009 9:47:20 P.M. Eastern Daylight Time,  
jackdylan007 at yahoo.com writes:


>  From: Dubravko Kakarigi <dubravko_2005 at yahoo.com>
> 
> In  the absence of cabeceo, I find the situation even more complicated 
when a  
> lady comes to ask me to dance and I do not want to dance with her or  
just do not 
> wish to dance at the moment (tired, want to watch, not  inspired by the 
music, 
> whatever).
> 

Hi  Dubravko,

You don't say what your response to the lady would be. In my  case, I'd 
have 
to be in real pain before I would turn down a lady's  request to dance.

Jack




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