[Tango-L] Ecstasis and Control

[Chris, UK]

> >> I might ask if close embrace is comfortable,
> 
> Ugh, and what is one gonna answer to that? Jeez, do you guys have to 
> *talk* about EVERYTHING?

It's what happens when people get the idea words necessarily communicate 
better than feel. Especially if they've learnt through words (instruction) 
mroe than through feel (dance).

If you feel the embrace, you know directly whether it's comfortable. If 
you can't/won't feel, you have to find out indirectly - by asking in words.

The problems start when the answer comes likewise indirectly in words, and 
you have to interpret it...

> if I am leading a partner I do not know, 

...and the problems continue until you realise /every/ partner you thought 
you knew from words, you actually don't - each night she can feel different.

> I have always been taught, as a follower and leader...

Barbra, I guess you're a girl. Let's keep in mind that the average guy 
starts out with the advantage of greater experience in feeling girls.

--
Chris