[Tango-L] "Would you like to lead or follow?"

[Leonardo Kunkello]

In my experience. There seems to be some advantage that adds to a  
guys technique to be able to follow.

On the other hand I have not seen an advantage for a lady to try to  
learn to lead. I have only danced with a few ladies who lead who were  
able to effectively switch gears between being a leader and a  
follower. They all happened to be advanced dancers.

A pleasant tango must have good communication. To be a good follower  
a lady must be "listening" for the lead. Women are multitaskers,  
maybe this causes leading women to seem to be split between  
"listening" to the lead and thinking or feeling what they would be  
leading. And as such the connection is just not there as with women  
who only follow.

If I see a woman leading at a milonga, she automatically goes to the  
bottom of my list for potential partners. There are a lot of ladies  
to dance with and those that also lead have proven for the most part  
not be the most enjoyable and connected of partners. This might be  
unfair to some but I play the odds and go were I feel the best  
connections are going to be.

Oh yea, if a lady asked me, lead or follow? My comment would be, you  
have got to be kidding!!

Be blessed,
Leonardo K



On Jul 19, 2008, at 9:55 AM, Nina Pesochinsky wrote:


> Marty,
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> If a woman leads and a man follows, it may be a tango of some sort,
> but it is NOT Argentine.
>
> Nina
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>> There is no rule in Argentine Tango that the man has to be the  
>> leader?
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>> You will not get any respect because you THINK you are a leader.
>> In my opinion, you will get great respect when you learn to lead
>> WELL, and can also follow.
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>> There are women in our Tango community who prefer to lead.
>> I have been asked by them if I would like to follow, and I have  
>> accepted.
>> It's still Argentine Tango.
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>> Marty
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