[Tango-L] Creating a strong connection

[Jay Rabe]

Michael wrote:

> Connection is not something that can be taught.
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As an absolute statement, I disagree. I think connection is quite different than chemistry, though they're related, but that's a huge topic.
Regarding connection, the context was about connection with a regular partner, vs. that with a stranger or not-so-regular partner.

Let me describe my experiences in dancing with a particular woman, "A." I have danced with her dozens of times over several years. There have been a couple of times when I've had the most exquisite connection with her that we were both nearly speechless afterwards. There have been times when we were so out of synch that you'd think we were both rank beginners. And of course lots of times in between. When you look at factors that were present during the bad times, you can learn (self-teach) from those bad experiences. I learned how being nervous or agitated or distracted or exhausted or ill can detract from my focus and from my being present and my listening to her. 

So to start with, to teach someone to have a better connection, you explain that they should relax, let go of extraneous concerns, focus their attention, and pay attention to their partner. It seems to me that these are tips or techniques that can facilitate good connections, and they surely can be taught.

That said, I will agree that connection is elusive, and I agree it's no doubt true that you can't teach connection to EVERYONE, but you most certainly can teach some things about it to a lot of people.

             J
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