[Tango-L] Gender Imbalance

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>   "Sitting in one spot all night" thing. WHERE you sit is supremely important. At any venue there will be predominate traffic flows - to and from: the front door, the bathroom, the dancefloor, and the food, as Trini pointed out. Women who want to dance, do well to put themselves in or near the traffic flows. 

Thank you for the tips, but they might not apply to everyone. I like to sit in one spot,  but that's not where the traffic flows. Sometimes dancers tell me: you should sit where the traffic flows so that I can easily see you. But I rather prefer a more quiet spot where I can listen to the music and watch the dancers and I won't be disturbed by a stop-and-go-traffic back and forth from the bar or bathroom.  I won't cruise around either. I'm convinced sitting is more rewarding. Why should I go hunting and ask a man to dance? I think the man I like to dance with will have eyes to see and he will find me. I prefer to be invited.  A good leader will have the initiative and good eyes. I also consider patience is a prerequisite for tango. For instance I would watch one of the best dancers, he has more than 20 years of dancing experience and I love to watch him dance. I guess I have watched him for years,  thinking how wonderful it would be to dance with him. And then a few weeks ago, he came to me and invited me to dance. It was worth waiting for it;)

Anna


>      Another tip: After the tanda has started, get up and cruise around. Any men hanging around instead of dancing are fair game. Like Trini said, being sociable at the food table can result in an invitation. It can be even more effective to be moving as a tanda is ending and people are coming off the floor, looking for their next partners.
>      Another tip: Never be shy about asking a man to dance (at least outside of BsAs).
> 
>                J
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> > From: patangos at yahoo.com
> > Subject: Re: [Tango-L] Gender Imbalance
> > 
> > One solution to teach them how to get dances.  Sitting in
> > one spot all night, expecting someone to come up to you is
> > not a very effective way to meet people.  The women who are
> > successful in getting dances are the ones who aren't afraid
> > to get up, will visit the food table which is a great place
> > to strike up a conversation (without hinting about a
> > dance), and act more sociable.  I don't think that acting
> > like a prima donna works in the States.
> > 
> > Trini de Pittsburgh
> > 
> 
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