[Tango-L] women as leader

buffmilonguera@aol.com buffmilonguera at aol.com
Mon Feb 25 23:28:12 EST 2008

I lead a lot - I think I am the only woman lead I know who is NOT a 
teacher.  I started because I was tired of waiting to dance.  I suppose 
it's pretty much the same everywhere - many more follows than 
leads.....some nights, I pretty much lead all night - and I've started 
to really enjoy it - not more than following, but as much.  Just two 
different ways to experience the dance.  At first I was a little unsure 
leading "away from home," but now I don't even think about it - 
although I am often the only woman leading. I also much prefer close 
embrace - as a lead and as a follow......


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Society > follow the directions to join BATS_tango.  Thanks!

-----Original Message-----
From: Dyane Auclair <auclairdy at hotmail.com>
To: tango  list <tango-l at mit.edu>
Sent: Mon, 25 Feb 2008 3:44 pm
Subject: [Tango-L] women as leader

Hi everyone,

I have been following this list only recently so forgive me if this 
subject has
been discussed previously.
I have been dancing tango for about 3 years. Unfortunately I have not 
yet find a
regular partner with whom I can really work hard at developing very 
following skills, at developing a good connection, and at developing a 
sense of musicality. Of course I had the "occasional beautiful tango 
with some good leaders but there is no continuity. So as a new 
challenge I have
decided to go back to basics and learn to become a LEADER while I am 
searching for the right dancing partner.
Why do I feel so much resistence in my community? It seems that I 
receive lot of
discouraging signals from other dancers (both men and women) and from 
Is it because most people believe that a good connection can only exist 
betwen a
man and a woman and since tango is nothing without a good connection 
there is no
point in putting any effort into that direction. Or is it simply 
tangeros/tangeras love stereotypes? Is it threatening for other 
leaders? I
sincerely believe that I will become a better follower because I will 
have a
better understanding of the problems that the leader encounters. What 
about you:
would you encourage me or discourage me?

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