[Tango-L] gender imbalance

[Astrid]

> I'm curious how you determined that people who dance with beginners are 
> "preying" on them?  Is there something wrong with dancing with beginners? 
> I don't know if this was your intent, but you come across as being upset 
> that people are dancing with beginners.

Whatever one writes on this list, there will always be somebody who finds a 
way to twist your words. I never said that tehre is sometihng wrong with 
dancing with beginners. I also wrote how happy I am when I happen to 
discover a talented beginner among the men. Note: the accent is on 
"talented", not on "beginner".
>
> Rather than simply blaming these men that you appear to have such disdain 
> for, maybe you might consider what you could do differently so that they 
> might prefer to dance with you.  Maybe then, you could influence them to 
> improve.

Sure, blame it all on the women, David. It is our responsibility to make you 
guys improve, yes?

My whole point in what I wrote in the posting you are referring to was that 
some of the perpetual intermediates among the men are using the easily 
impressed beginners as an escape way from having to get better in order to 
receive more respect from the advanced women. Rather than working on their 
skills, they find the easy way out: do not get better, just find partners 
who are even worse than you so that you can impress them with your 
unchanging mediocrity. There will always be some new beginners who do not 
know you yet...

  The really good dancers may offer suggestions (and usually only when I ask 
for them), but they are very positive and encouraging (ie. they also give 
compliments).

Of course they do. Unless you try to patronise them.