[Tango-L] Torso and the Clarity of the Lead

[robin tara]

I took a chance and danced with a stranger at a milonga on the
outskirts of town yesterday. He gave me no space and was leading by
twitching my back with his arm and hand. Then he started to try to
"teach" me. Thank heavens I finally know enough spanish to say "stop
'leading' me that way and we will do just fine." He started to argue
and I was ready to walk off the floor, but he calmed down and actually
stopped tugging. He realized very quickly that he should not make
assumptions about foreign women and their abilities. After that the
dance was much less painful and irritating even though it wasn't a
great tango, at least I was more comfortable.




On 4/4/08, Astrid <astrid at ruby.plala.or.jp> wrote:
>
>   Too often I see men use their arm
>  > strength to pull the women through the movements that they actually
>  > haven't led very well with the movement of their torsos.
>  >
>  > With best regards,
>  > Steve de Tejas
>
>  The arms are trying to make up for what the body could not achieve, making
>  everyting even worse... Imagine what this feels like to a woman. You are
>  lucky, Steve...but I know you are careful about who you dance with yourself.
>  Been watching a few videos on someone's homepage recently...
>
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