[Tango-L] On similes and such like...

[Astrid]

>>"allow us to lead": OK: "responsibility for direction": OK; "decisions"; 
>>OK. All nice and humble.
>>But then we have ..."lift you up" and "free you so that you can ...". With 
>>all due rspect Mash,
>>that doesn't sound very humble. How do you think it sounds to the ladies 
>>on this list who may
>>be far better dancers than you with many more years of experience. And 
>>you're going to lift
>>them up and free them. What is is it about Tango that makes regular, 
>>normal guys suddenly
>>feel like mini-gods?
>
> No one has inferred mini-gods.., or anything even close..
>
> But leaders are needed.., else the ladies would be out there dancing
> by themselves.  To whatever degree one 'accepts' it.., the ladies can
> do nothing on the Tango floor without a leader.   Leaders 'invite' the
> followers, or 'allow' them if you will, to the extent of the leaders
> imagination and ability.., to move and dance to the limit of *their*
> imagination and ability.   To be as free as they can and wish to be..,
> but limited and governed by the leader's ability to bring it on.

As a matter of fact, Floyd, Mash's posting sounded better to me than yours. 
I don't know how Mash dances but your choice of words (being "governed by 
the leader") proves that you are exactly what you just accused Mash of, 
feeling like a mini god. And dancing with guys who feel like God's gift to 
tango, in their own opinion, not the women's, is not as great as you think..
.
> But that's not all...  To me I do understand that society keeps women
> more in a 'cage' than a box.., and for most of the time.   So much so
> that most women don't even realize how much they are restricted. But
> Tango is one of the few ways they can come out of it.    Freely,
> safely, and vicariously sexual as women.    It seems that people
> should try to enjoy it for what it is.
>
I, for one, do realise that, and dancing at a milonga with guys who behave 
as though they are at high school party, does not improve things at all. 
Like Huck said, they think, they "just have to roll up with their souped up 
car in front of the girl's house and she will come running downstairs, 
because she has been chosen over some other tramp..."