[Tango-L] Help to find masculinity in tango!

[Keith]

Sergio,

Thank you, thank you for once again putting everything back in perspective and explaining so clearly what I think is the true nature of Tango. I find 
confusing all this talk about masculine/feminine sides and the masculine/feminine parts that are in each of us .... blah, blah, blah, blah. I am a man; I am 
the leader. My partner is a woman; she is the follower. The more masculine I can be, the better I can lead. The more feminine my partner, the better she can 
follow. We should stop telling men to "find their feminine side". Instead, we should tell our male students to ... be men, stand like men, act like men, walk 
like men and embrace your women like men. And, to show I'm not a caveman, I completely agree with Sergio's descriptions of what constitutes masculine and 
feminine behaviour.

Watching Americans dancing Tango on YouTube, it's sometimes difficult to tell which partner is the more masculine and which is the more feminine. I never 
have that problem with Argentines who have no ambivalence about their roles. 

Keith, HK



On Sun Sep 30 11:40 , Sergio Vandekier  sent:

>
>Igor says:  "I was told that many men trying tango drop it because they think "tango istoo feminine".
>
>Dear Igor not too long ago I was surprised to read in one of your notes that you believed that there are no gender roles in tango.
>
>I do not wish to re-start a hot discussion of tango gender roles but I am not surprised that you are encountering such problems as the ones by you described.
>
>I do not care if you (or anybody) likes to lead or follow or change roles back and forth, I do not care if men dance with men and women dance with women, if 
women lead or men follow.  This is a free society and anybody should be able to do whatever he likes, but...paradoxically enough IMO, tango is universally 
accepted and cultivated precisely because in this dance the man is the man and woman is the woman.  
>
>This is the way we name the members of the dancing couple. We do not use the words leader or follower. We use the words Man and Woman.  If I wish to follow 
I will say - " I will be the woman" (not the follower).
>
>The man "marca", "LLeva", (directs takes the woman to places), the woman "sigue" (follows him).
>
>He is masculine, poised, somewhat arrogant, he knows he is in charge, he feels the music, decides to make an artistic interpretation and leads the woman, he 
protects her, he is attentive to avoid collisions. He has intense, deep communication with her, respects her and gives her time to express herself.
>
>She is feminine, applies her chest against his, like the bird that seeks refuge in his nest, she is attentive to his requests and proposals, she follows the 
best that she can, convinced that he is in charge, she is protected and has nothing to be afraid of. She surrenders to the embrace and he does the same. 
>
>Both work in total harmony and create together a beautiful tango. 
>
>The music stops, they remain together for a few seconds and then break apart. 
>
>If you teach that there are no gender roles in tango it is natural that many males are going to feel awkward dancing such variation of the dance.    
>
>You have to remember that your real character or spiritual persona comes out when you dance tango, as the dance is an expression of your personality.  Those 
that have strong masculine or feminine traits are going to show them while they dance.   Males won't be able to hide their feminine components and women will 
not be able to hide their masculine ones either.
>
>So my advise to you is teach tango as it was originally conceived: a dance with definite gender roles.
>
>In my experience men and women apppreciate that aspect of the dance which is present in most dances anyways.
>
>Then allow each persona irrespective of their physical gender to adopt the role that they wish to play at the moment.
>
>Respectfully, Sergio
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