[Tango-L] taxi dancers

[Victor Bennetts]

I believe that was my wife's experience as well. That the cabeceo is actually a two way thing and really designed to ensure the woman is comfortable with their partner.  The main difference I noticed is that women are expected to remain seated (hence their table position is critical) while we men are free to roam around like hungry wolves ;-). Actually that is for the benefit of the women as well, according to my wife, as it is murder standing in tango heels waiting for dances for any length of time apparently.

Victor

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From: tango-l-bounces at mit.edu [tango-l-bounces at mit.edu] On Behalf Of musette fan [musettefan at yahoo.com]
Sent: Tuesday, 16 October 2007 5:31 AM
To: Konstantin Zahariev; Tango-L
Subject: Re: [Tango-L] taxi dancers

I didn't feel at all "stuck" in BA by the cabaceo, on the contrary I felt free and
much more in control of my own destiny.  As you say, women can, um, encourage anyone
they want to ask them with eye contact, and in the meantime they don't have to
accept any dances at any time that they don't want to, for whatever reason.


Terri


--- Konstantin Zahariev <anfractuoso at gmail.com> wrote:

> On 10/15/07, Carol Shepherd <arborlaw at comcast.net> wrote:
> > Seems to me that it's the
> > women who are really stuck in BsAs, because the codes do not allow them
> > to ask anybody.
>
> Is this really true? It seems to me the cabeceo is more or less an
> equal opportunity custom since both women and men can initiate an
> 'invite' by staring at somebody. I realize the usual line is that only
> men can invite but with cabeceo, this requires a fairly narrow
> definition of 'invite'. Realistically, both women and men invite with
> their eyes, though on the dance floor, after that negotiation, it may
> appear as if the woman only accepts.
>
> Since in BA the cabeceo is used extensively, if not exclusively, I am
> not yet convinced that women are more stuck than the men in getting
> dances.
>
> With best regards,
>
> Konstantin
> Victoria, Canada
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