[Tango-L] Flaming women at classes

[Igor Polk]

Thank you for the great letter, Tom !

Absolutely, TV shows like "Dancing with the Stars" is an anti commercial for
most men.

I have a problem now which might be similar.

My women, with whom I regularly dance after the classes started to compare
me with their husbands ( it happens between couples only, of course ) this
way: " It is so good to dance with Igor, but you are so clumsy, can not do
this or that...". And guys feel bad about themselves.

What to do? How to discourage women from criticizing? Of course, they
progress much faster than men.
When I dance with them - they really become better, all men are noticing
that. But that puts them into the distracting position of inflaming
critique.

I do not know what to do. The difference between level of dancers is usually
quite large in my classes and many people insist on not changing partners.
That in some way contributes to the problem.

I'd appreciate advice.

Igor Polk 







PS
I have to admit, I think TV shows like "Dancing with the Stars" works for
men who already feel that they are good dancers - they do not feel unable to
do this - they like the sexy partners and atmosphere.